Plus we deserve better than constantly living in fear...wondering what the future holds...will we get married? who will pay for the wedding? Is he cheating? etc. So I think we should take control. Become more independent and don't take certain things so seriously.
If he isn't gonna save up to buy you an engagement ring...then start saving up for when he leaves you or you leave him. Start your own business. Earn your own money. And if he isn't thinking about marriage....who cares? You are earning your own money and can take care of your own ass!
I know its not necessarily what we want but I think its what will work best. So many guys want to take the easy road...live with mom, not work, not do anything with their life, date a girl for years while keeping other girlfriends a secret and avoid marriage and commitment. Well, we female orphans got more balls.
I'm already earning my own money on my etsy shop and saving up for a macbook air. And just saving in general. I hope to start designing clothes and have it become really successful. Of course we have all thought of how nice it would be to have a family and a caring hubby. Well, men just aren't that way. But now imagine if you had more money than you knew what to do with. You wouldn't need a man. No one would control you. Buy your own clothes, dress the way you want, go out with friends, no fear of being cheated on, no fear of divorce, no fear of being homeless, no fear of food stamps. YOu would be a princess.
“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore.” ― Lady Gaga
So if a guy isn't thinking like a real man...that is my plan.
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This is sound advice, particularly for us female orphans. It's weird, I never thought of myself as an orphan, because to think so would be to imply I belong somewhere... in some outcast niche in society. But I guess I am, because both my parents are dead, and I have no family support.
I do have my boyfriend, though, and while he is wonderful and I love him, and he talks about marrying me all the time, I still heed your warning. I've been there, too, but never after my mom died. Now I have nobody. If anything were to happen in our relationship I'd be screwed... but still, I know what I have with him is more than I have with any friends.
If anything, I can say I don't trust people I once called my friends.
hey..advice for girls to be careful is ok. But dont think that all men are crap and women are good. I have seen many girls who cheated their boy friends and husbands. Anyway,,it is good for orphan women to have some income. Cheers.
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