Monday, December 5, 2011

Great Idea for Orphans!

I just thought of this a while ago and I am not sure why I never thought of this before. But you know how it can be difficult when you have lost someone and you want to talk about them. I think it is fine to talk about your lost loved one. As often as you want. If they were still here it would be okay to talk about them. Why would it be wrong to talk about them if they have past away? Anyways. I find it very important to find friends and soul mates that understand what you are going through. And I thought of a great why for orphans to find others who may have lost a loved one.

Visit a graveyard on Mother's Day or Father's day etc. It could even be your own Mother or Father's grave. I have never visited before on any of those days...but I think if you did you may have some company. At least you will feel like you aren't the only one who feels the sadness of that day. You may meet someone who has also lost a parent or someone who you can talk to about your loss.

I think its ingenious.

Rule # 1 of being an orphan: Never give up!

Rule # 1 of being an orphan: Never give up!

Years ago I tried to find out where my mom's ashes were sprinkled. . I celled the funeral home. They said it was by this lake which didn't make sense since it was in the middle of a golf course. I called a few times to confirm this. I even got a faxed copy. A few years later I had my boyfriend drive up there on Mother's Day to visit the spot...and there was construction. Bulldozers, etc. It just didn't seem right. So I finally emailed them. I could direct my email to the cremation dept. A week past and no reply. Every time I got upset about a difficulty in life I would wish I could talk to my mom. I would wish I could visit her resting place. Then about two weeks later I got a reply to my email. It said that she wasn't north of the lake. She was in the north part of the cemetery by the lake. I was so happy. That made sense. The email even included details that confirmed that they actually knew what they were talking about this time.

As an orphan I think it is really important to fight for what means the most to you. A lot may not understand or even care. But just do it and never give up. This will help you in your difficult life.