Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Dating advice for Orphans: Be the best

This post is for both men and women. It should be obvious. But no one wants a person who looks like crap or is crap. Who wakes up in the morning and thinks "oh I want to dress like a slob for the rest of my life?" No. Be the best you can be.

For Women:
Men want an ideal girl. Perhaps with a title. Men want to be able to brag about their girl and say "my girlfriend is a model" or singer or asian or a virgin. Its all ideals. I know we would think they would want someone who doesn't cheat and is actually doing something with their lives. But no. Men tend to be immature little boys. They want th prettiest girl even if one day she will be old and ugly. Go fig. So...dress your best, get a nice haircut, drink some green tea, work out, go blonde or redhead. But also be yourself.

Sometimes I look at some married women and it is SO obvious why their hubby chose them...cus their tits are big, or they are asian or a redhead etc. lame but its true. No one wants an orphan. So don't tell him. Get some other title...like a cheerleader, prom queen, etc. Maybe be a belly dancer. Guys want a girl to be proud of.

I don't really know what I am. I just want to be me.

For men:
Just about the same thing goes for men. Women want a decent guy. A guy who dresses nice and is hardworking. A guy who is doing something with his life. I never understood why a guy would just fall apart after a divorce. Why not make yourself better? Clean the house, get a haircut, new clothes, and become someone better.
Not very many girls want a guy with no job, no money, no home and no car. Those 4 things are very important. A great place to meet chicks is at the gym. Which is great cus not only are you working on getting in shape but you are also meeting people. (side note: get a month-to-month contract) Most gyms sign you up for a three year contract and you get stuck with it. A month-to-month contract is much easier to get out of. Or just try jogging or playing sports. Women are not impressed by alcohol or drug use. So don't. It will ruin your life.

Women love guys in neck ties, they like smart guys, talented guys and nice guys.
Do something with your life. Work for a company, write songs, follow your passion, get hobbies. Try cooking ,writting a book, building websites. These skills are not only impressive but can also get you a job. And job makes money which pays for car and a home and extra money to spend on chicks.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Dating Tips for Orphan Women

I will evetually post on dating tips for orphaned men. But I think orphan women really need help in this area. Having a man in a womans life can make things SO much easier. So I wanted to give a few tips for orphans and dating etc.

1. No Drama. Men hate drama. I used to think it was okay to tell a guy all about my dead mom and how I am an orphan etc. No. Men don't like akward uncomfortable situtations like that. So no drama. No bitching. No being negative. No complaining that he isn't spending time with you. Sometimes men actually are busy. Don't harrass him. Don't text him all the time. Sometimes stop texting or calling him and wait til he calls you. This way you know he is thinking about you and it helps him think you are drama-free. Its also playing hard-to-get. These things will be very important if he breaks up with you. I will post on break up tips later. You won't want to miss it!

2. Be positive. Men like girls who are happy and fun. Always have something positive to say. It you text him. Say something positive and not negative. Don't say "oh I hate my job" but instead say "I can't wait til lunch". If you have a Twitter, Myspace or facebook make sure to have your status and tweets be fun and happy things. "I went shopping today" or "I love my kitty". Get the idea. Being fun can make a guy want to be with you. Men like girls who smile and laugh and are fun. I know it sounds cheesy but its true. Make sure to smile in your photos on your facebook etc. Even if you want a sexy photo..make sure you have a slight smile on your face. No sad stuff. This also goes along with being confident.

3. Don't tell him about your orphan hood. Atleast not until you really have to. I always wondered what would happen if I didn't tell a guy the truth about my dead mom etc. And guess what...he stuck around. Most guys run from drama and sad stuff. They don't know how to handle it. I recently met up with a guy at the mall. And I mentioned to him that my mom has passed away. I mention it twice and both times he changed the subject right away. He may be afraid I might cry or that he might cry. It was kinda a bad move on my part. I'll keep you posted on this subject. But until then my advice is don't tell him any of the personal orphan stuff. By not telling him about it...he can make up stuff in his mind that you are perfect. And by the time you do have to tell him...hopefully he won't care.

4. Don't be too easy. Be confident and show restraint. Don't call all the time. Wait and see if he calls you sometimes. Spend time apart. Make him think you have a life. And make him want to be a part of it. Not being easy also goes along with not being too clingy.

5. If he breaks up with you don't freak out. Refer to tip #1. Again I will post more on this later.

6. Be confident. Even if you don't feel like it. Do it! Stand up straight, smile, and be happy. I'm still working on this.

7. Don't be clingy. Orphan females tend to be very clingy. If a guy breaks up with her or doesn't spend enough time with her...she freaks out. We panic and feel alone and not in control. You need to calm down and don't be clingy. Or you will lose him. Give him some space and show him that you can be independant even if you feel like you want to call him like crazy.

8. If you are going to meet him in person for the first time, dress really nice. Don't think that he will accept you for who you are and wear whatever. If you don't give a good first impression then there will be no second chance. I have had this happen a lot. But I am learning. Dress cute, make sure you don't wear anything that makes you look fat. Like when I met this guy at the mall. I wore a hoodie over a cute tight shirt...well that hoodie made me look fat. I should have wore a cute tank top.

9. Never talk about ex-boyfriends. Even if you are making a point. Don't do it. Just don't. You don't want to hear about his ex-girlfriends, do you? NOPE! So don't talk about your ex-boyfriends.

10. Don't let him know that you don't have a dad. He will treat you like crap. He will break up with you in the worst way cus he knows your dad isn't gonna protect you. He will take what he wants from you and then leave you. Just say you dad travels a lot or something. Or talk about your bog brother and how he looks out for you. This is a tricky one but very important.

I hope some of this helps I will post more on it soon. I am just learning things myself too.

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Father's Day Orphan Update

Hey guys! How is it going!? Today hasn't been too bad. II been watching videos on youtube.com and eating snacks. Taking it easy. I also got a few friends I can text or call if I want.

I just wanted to remind you to take it easy today. I want a Happy Meal but I refuse to leave my house.

I may make some bracelets etc.

So yeah just take it easy. Its half way through. Listen to some music, take a nap, watch a movie and improve you positive bitching. Make a list of good things going on in your life.

1. Its nice outside. (I like rain more)

2. I got snacks

3. I got music

4. I got friends to text or call

5. Its hot out but I can run around in my underwear!

Remember there are hundreds of other people in the world that don't have dads. Why should we all pout?

Friday, June 11, 2010

Orphan Tips for Father's Day

Its getting closer. I am starting to see advertisements for Father's Day gifts and stuff. don't let it get to you. The new Toy Story Movie comes out that weekend. Thinking about Father's Day just makes it worse. Here's some tips for you guys to make Father's Day easier for you

1. Keep yourself busy. Busy but not stressed. Don't sit and think about how sad you are. Watch a movie, read a book, hang with friends, clean the house. Stay busy. Treat it like any other day.

2. Stay in. I prefer to stay in on Mother's Day and Father's Day. I don't want to see other people with their parents and I also may be kinda grumpy and I don't want anyone giving me an attitude when I know they have parents. So I stay in. But some people may get lonely so you may want to go out and see a movie or something. But plan this a head of time.

3. Treat yourself. Lately I have been indulging in the Kandi Kid life. Its people who wear shirts with cartoons on them and believe in PLURR (Peace, love, unity, respect and responisbility) I love it. It all makes me feel like a kid again. There is much more to the Kandi kid culture and you can do the research on your own. But my point is to be like a kid again. No one really glows up. Lots of men still play video games. Lots of adult still live with their parents. As orphans we are forced to grow up fast and work hard. Be a kid once in a while. Make Father's Day an easy day. Rent a movie, order pizza, play your favorite cd, take a bath, try a new video game, sleep in. Its just one day.

4. Stock up on the essentials. I plan on staying in so I make sure to have money so I can order a pizza, extra food, medicine in case I get sick, etc. I got sick last Mother's Day and I wished I had some orange juice to help me. Stock up on healthy foods. Green tea helps your immune system. And if you do start to cry, remember to drink water. Replace those tears. Or you will get dehydrated and get sick.

5. If you cry, drink water. I gotta say it again. If you cry, drink water. Or you will get sick. If you cry, eat healthy, Drink some green tea, some veggies, orange juice. Not too much orange juice. Some milk.

6. Try getting some multi-vitamins. Its kinda like when you have a headache you take some asprin. Well if you are sad or feel sick take a vitamin. Or better yet take a vitamin each day so stay healthy.

7. Have a friend you can call. Have some friends you can chat with on Twitter.com or Myspace.com or facebook.com or youtube.com whatever. Talking and chatting with friends will cheer you up.

8. Plan. Make plans. Don't just assume that it will be a breeze and that you will just stay in. Make plans and make backup plans. I plan on sleeping in, checking my email, watching some cartoons, eatting breakfast, listening to some music, playing with the dog, maybe text a friend, and then do it all over again. I may also finish some art.

You get the idea right? Don't assume it will be easy. Just make it a fun day. Why should it be a bad day for you? Stay positive.

Friday, June 4, 2010

Father's Day Preparation for an Orphan

Well I have started to see ads for Father's Day. Its a few weeks away. I will not be putting up the chat this time. But again I am telling you that we need to prepare.

Things to do to prepare for Father's Day:
-plan to hang out with a friend
-try to hang out with a friend
-find a friend to hang out with on FD
-stock up on food for that weekend
-rent a movie to watch on FD
-treat yourself on that day
-sleep in on FD
-stock up on Green Tea. It will keep you from getting sick.

I know I don't want to have to leave my house on Father's Day. I want to stay in. So I will have to stock up on food.

-maybe get a book to read for the day
-listen to a new cd on that day
this may mot be a good idea since that cd will remind you of that day)

I will post more. I plan on trying to find a friend to hang out with...if that doesn't work out I will try to relax and spoil myself. Last Mother's Day was terrible.