Saturday, May 19, 2012

A Place for Orphans to meet Friends

Now you guys aren't gonna believe this. But I have found a place where I can go and it can become like a family. You can make friends, people look out for each other and you end up having some of the best times! Its not a church, its not a school but those both can be fun too!


Its a bar or night club! Yes really. Especially for those female orphans.

Now I don't drink but I recently started going to a local bar with a friend from high school. I just drink soda (which should be free) and tip about a dollar per drink to keep the bartenders happy. The bartenders will also look out for you and make sure no weird drunk guys bother you. After going there about once a week for a few weeks you people start to recognize you and you make friends. It becomes more like a family almost and you feel comfortable there. Like a second home.

And some of the funnest things happen there and you meet the neatest people. Just last night I met a guy who lost his arm in the war and had a hook for an arm. The first night I went there was vomit in the bathroom. There was break dancing in the lobby last week. And since its a bar, you can be or say anything you want. People always ask me my name and where I am from. I could lie and say my name is Marilyn and I am from Las Vegas and just make up a bunch of shit.

It reminds me of when I was in college I would wonder around the art building in my free time. I had gone there for about 5 years and I knew all the students and the teachers and I felt like I belonged and it was just a nice place to hang out.

There are times when I go to the bar and its like "I love this! I wish I had tried this sooner"! Some bartenders are really friendly and will look out for you. Some are very flirty and will flirt for tips. But I think thats just what a female orphan needs eery now and then. Some nice attention but you know it ain't gonna get too serious.

So there. I live in this town. The people are stupid, back-stabbing and heartless. But when I go to that club....I am welcome and I have friends and I love it! When I go there I honestly feel the happiest I have ever felt since my mom died. Its like a drug that doesn't cost much at all.

This is what I have been looking for for you guys! A haven. A place to relax, fit in, and make friends. A place to have fun and feel normal. A place to spend the holidays, and partake in fun events!

Every bar or club is different. Find one that you feel comfortable with. Go with a friend the first time. You don't have to drink. I just drink water or soda. Hang out at the bar and talk with you bartender. Some of them are the best people you will meet. Very friendly and kind. Almost like a low-budget therapist. And don't forget to tip. A family like this is priceless.

Love you guys! So glad this blog has help you! Feel free to add The Orphan Handbook on Facebook. Stay strong and NEVER give up!


Anonymous said...

Hey, so I've been flippin through ur posts and finally decided to comment. Really not my style but since I'm "like" you, who else will understand what i'm about to say? I can't believe you can comfortably have friends cuz I can't. It's just too stressful having to hide my "true" self to people all the time. There's this terror inside me that if they really saw me in the proverbial light of day, well, they wouldn't/couldn't be around me. My stats: lost brother when 3, lost mother when 5, lost dad when 8. Yeah, I'm basically fucked now. P.S. hope NYC is treatin u ok.

funerals adelaide said...

This is crazy but it is true, When I moved in to my recent house, it has a bar two blocks away. At first I was a loner and had no friends but as I keep on going forth on the bar, I gained friends, luckily, good friends.

Anonymous said...

me too, anonymous. i can't trust anyone and how can you have friends without trust? mom neglect and abused me til age 15 then her parental rights terminated after the damage was done, no dad, alone in the world. wish i could be happy and confident about it instead of depressed and anxious for the rest of my life. but hang in there, at least we are in this together.