Saturday, July 17, 2010

I Hate Being An Orphan

There are so many problems that come with being and orphan. Everyday we are surrounded by people that we cannot relate to and cannot relate to us.

Some things that made being an orphan overall easier:

1. Friends. You need friends. Make friends as soon as you can. And stay in touch. Make sure they are good friends that care about you and can be trusted. You will need friends to hang out with on holidays and to help you move etc. Friends are your lifeline.

2. Save money. Save money at all costs. You don't have an family to throw money at you. You must earn it and save it. Anything can happen. You never know when you will need some extra money to survive. Money will help you stay stable and in control. It will help feed you, clothe you and help you if you need to move etc.

3. Be minimal. I have found that living a minimalist lifestyle will help reduce stress and save money and it will also be easier if you need to move. Don't own anything you can't carry yourself. Don't own too many clothes. Own just the basics and a few treats to keep you happy.

4. Stay motivated. Keep going in life. Have goals you want to achieve. Never give up. Do things in your life. Travel, work, learn things. Be free! When you get bored with your life then you become sad and things become dangerous. Accomplish things in your life and make your parents proud.

5. Look out for yourself. Use your brain. Don't trust just anyone. Plan ahead in life. Make wise decisions. Don't depend completely on other people. They will take advantage of you. You can't control people but you can control yourself and your decisions. If you don't like the way things are..do something. Nothing is holding you back. Travel, get a new job if you have money saved up. Change your world before you change the world.

This has been a kinda lonely weekend for me. Wishing I had friends to hang out with. Been here since mom died. My guardian never allowed to have friends when I was a teen. I got rid of my radio and my tv this weekend. Just got my laptop. Nice and simple and free. Feels like college. I also got a $18 electricity bill because I unplug everything when I don't use it.

Stay strong and never give up!

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I lost parents at age 11. Mom on xmas day 72, dad april 24 73. It was hard, esp with uncaring schoolkids, still bullied afterwards...I help kids with it as h I had little help.

Anonymous said...

I just found this blog, glad it's out there. I'm 21 and in college, with both parents deceased. My Dad died when I was 18, and my Mom just this past december. I'm glad I'm not alone, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one in the whole university going through this.

Anonymous said...

What is most painful about being an orphan is knowing that some of the hard circumstances in this life wouldnt be as hard had my parent been alive. It is so sad because every defining moment in life- be it a happy or sad moment, turns out sorrow-filled because of the thought of parents who couldnt be alive to share those moments.

Ana-Maria Dolinta said...

I grew up in the orphanage. I never called anybody ''daddy" because i did not have one.It was the hardest moment of my life to see how other kids will run to their parents happy and ful of joy when they were picked up from school. I understood that not everyone in life gets it all, and my family were part of them.
But i can tell you all: nothing will make you stronger and wiser than being an orphan. Being an orphan Itis not a choice, but i believe it is a chalenge. God Bless you all....

Jeremy Platt said...

i'm 12 years old and under foster care since my parents died in a fire and had no other family. i am pretty independent and wish i had friends but no one likes me because i'm a orphan and i'm jewish. i know this artical was directed towards aldults but i still need to make money so i can get the things i have always wanted because my foster parents wont get me. there are 5 other foster kids living with me and no one pays attention to the kid who never talks. i would talk but there is no one to talk to. i have not said one word for 3 months now. so i talk through the internet

Anonymous said...

I am 39 years old, my Mother passed away back in 2001 and I recently discovered the man who I thought was my Dad was actually my step dad. That explained a lot about the way he abused my Mother and I. I don't have "any" family and recently divorced my Wife of 15 years due to here having an affair. I have to agree with just about everything discussed and described here. It is a daily battle. God bless you all.

Anonymous said...

I will be 57 in a couple of days. I was orphaned at less than a year old, placed in foster care then stolen back by my birth mother only to be returned to foster care again a year or so later. It would take me years to describe all that has happened in between, but I will sum things up in this way. It took me until just a couple of years ago for me to realize that orphans are a target. We have no real advocates, and when we do, it might only be for a time....until we are no longer useful to the "donar". We orphans are so eager to please (even if we think we hide it), that we are often treated like "suckers". It really is an awful existence to go through life only to finally realize that you mean nothing to no one.

Zoey said...

So glad to have chanced upon your blog. I lost my mum when I was 15 too and my dad was diagnosed with some psych condition few years later. It was just like being an orphan and it was not easy coping and yes not everyone understands. I'm glad you are staying positive and just want to encourage you here to keep going forward no matter what!!;)